I make every effort to be clean, hygienic and sanitary; I expect the same from you. Also, while I am a non-smoker, I do not mind if you do. I am a light social drinker and do not use drugs, and expect the same from you during the time we spend together.
Here are a few suggestions and guidelines to make your appointment go smoothly. In order to ensure that we both have a positive experience, please take the time to read them. While some of those reading this may be experienced in dealing with escorts, this is here primarily for the novice client with less of an idea how to go about it.
1. First and foremost, escorts DO NOT sell sex. Some people are unfamiliar with the difference between escorts and prostitutes; the difference is simple: escorts sell their time, prostitutes sell sexual acts. What happens during an appointment with an escort is interaction which transpires between two or more consenting adults who possess similar likes and interests. In other words, no fees or tips will be accepted or quoted in exchange for sexual contact.
2. As a result of the preceding, you will find that escorts will not talk to new clients about sexual contact between yourself and themselves in any way, shape or form. The reason, as described above, is that they are selling their time, not sexual acts. To avoid problems in communication, keep discussion light. Referring to sexual acts will most likely lead to being ignored completely, and nobody benefits from that! However, you and your escort may have conversation regarding their personal life and lifestyle, discussing similar likes, interests and yes, sexual inclinations.
3. Never associate a sexual act with a rate or fee. This is important! The only people who attempt to associate rates and sex when communicating with an escort are those who work for law enforcement or government agencies, or are soliciting hookers. Making this association will scare off any escort, and once again nobody benefits.
4. When making your initial contact an escort, supply a valid phone number and as much information as you are comfortable giving; this would include your name, age, general location, interests, etc. If all goes well, your escort will learn all of this anyway. Providing this sort of info up front will help to get things off to a smooth start. Avoid sending lewd and crude e-mails. These will be ignored and bring an end to communication.
5. Always pay the fees or rates agreed upon up front. As the escort is providing a service, she should never have to ask for money. Doing this will keep you on the client list and you'll be sure to have future appointments.
6. Immediately upon arrival at your appointment, be sure to place the agreed donation on the dresser, bed, table, or similar location in plain view. Expect the escort to count it, as one would expect of any transaction. Be sure that you bring your donation in cash only.
7. If your appointment takes place at a hotel, expect the escort to call the front desk to verify that you are a registered guest in the room number provided before arrival. This will require that you provide your full name. This is for safety reasons. An escort cannot risk meeting with an undesirable client, a member of law enforcement or government agencies, or worse, a client who may intend to do them harm.
8. Expect the escort to have told a close friend where they were going, for how long and with whom. Expect this close friend to have your contact information, including e-mail address, cell number and any other applicable phone numbers, the address and contact info for your destination, be it a restaurant, hotel, or home, etc. If you have sent a picture of yourself, expect them to have that as well. In order to maintain their own safety, an escort will keep a close friend well informed.
9. If you and your escort find that you share sexual interests and are attracted to each other, then it is up to you to make the first move. Because of the way various laws are written, and the risk of sting operations, the escort will not touch you unless you make the first move. If you have made the initial physical contact and it is well received, then the game is on and you're going enjoy your appointment. Failing to make that initial contact with your escort means nothing sexual will happen during your allotted time and at the end of your appointment, the escort will leave with their fee.
10. If your appointment is in a hotel room, expect the escort to immediately check the bathroom and any closets or adjoining rooms to ensure there are no uninvited guests. Do not be upset by this. Occasionally, a client may bring friends unannounced. This is not good - it may surprise, annoy or scare your escort and will likely lead to an abrupt cancellation of your appointment. After this initial check, you should expect the escort to lock all doors in the room, including any sliding glass doors, such as to a balcony, or doors to adjoining rooms. Your appointment is for you alone. With the doors locked, the escort will find it easier to focus on you.
11. Offer your escort only beverages which are in sealed cans or bottles. No escort wants to have to worry about being slipped any kind of drug. Once you're a repeat client and trust is established this will be less of an issue.
12. Do not expect your escort to provide condoms, lube, toys or other items of sexual nature. You should have these items handy in the event that you and the escort share sexual interests and are attracted to each other during your visit. Again, because of the way various laws are written, and the risk of sting operations, the escort will not carry lube, condoms, toys, etc.
13. If you and your escort find each other sexually attractive and as two consenting adults find yourself engaging in sexual activities, DO NOT expect condom-free sex. This is common sense.
14. Don't treat the escort like an object. They are human beings deserving of your respect, and have made their time available to you as a dinner guest, a drinking buddy, a travel companion, eye candy on your arm, or more. Treat your escort as you would like to be treated, and you will more likely remain on the client list and have future appointments. The only exception to this rule may be during consensual role play.
15. Don't expect the escort to keep track of time. If you go over your paid time, you will be expected to pay additional fees. Escorts are a providing a service, and their time is valuable.
16. Expect to be treated professionally by your escort. You are a client and potential friend; they do not see you as a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you are seeking a romantic relationship, then stick with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
17. Always tip your escort. This gesture shows that they are doing a good job and that their services are appreciated. A gift will also always be warmly received.
That pretty much covers it. If you follow these guidelines, you should have no problems contacting an escort, setting up an appointment, and developing a good positive relationship with your escort.